How do you help?
Here I am, sleepy and tired but still the inclination to sleep eludes me. And after talking to a friend and being reminded that I haven't been updating my blog lately, I start to think "What'da??? Yoko eh." Hehe
But after some thought and chatting with the Elder Wand, I started going thru my YM contacts and I noticed that my friend hasn't added me yet to her YM. The only means that I have of contacting her is thru text and we only do that once in a while because of the conflict of scheds. Last time, we were talking, she was really down and depressed because of her ex. But here's the catch, she's claiming she's over the ex and I don't really think so.
She says she's trying to be happy by her single self, upon my advice, and she says she is but still an emptiness is there that she feels every so often. I advised her to distract herself with friends to help her get over the hurt of that failed relationship and a more dismal end to that relationship. Dismal, you ask? The Ex didn't break it off officially.
No words of "It's over!". Just the usual "I'm not sure..." then pics of the new beau starts appearing everywhere. She says she's ok but she can't stand to look at their pictures for very long. She needs to turn away because it is burned behind her eyes what she's seeing and looking at it longer make it hurt even more. She says she feel so empty and I say because you have not moved on. But how can you help someone who thinks she already has despite all of this. How can you help anyway? Isn't this type of healing self-paced?
How do you help someone who needs to help herself but could not? How do you give strength when the strength needed must come from within? I can only comfort from afar and give her strength thru thought and fervent wishes. I'm afraid to pray for to pray for this to pass means to acknowledge how bad it really is. I'm afraid because prayer are not always answered the way we we wish it to be answered.
But after some thought and chatting with the Elder Wand, I started going thru my YM contacts and I noticed that my friend hasn't added me yet to her YM. The only means that I have of contacting her is thru text and we only do that once in a while because of the conflict of scheds. Last time, we were talking, she was really down and depressed because of her ex. But here's the catch, she's claiming she's over the ex and I don't really think so.
She says she's trying to be happy by her single self, upon my advice, and she says she is but still an emptiness is there that she feels every so often. I advised her to distract herself with friends to help her get over the hurt of that failed relationship and a more dismal end to that relationship. Dismal, you ask? The Ex didn't break it off officially.
No words of "It's over!". Just the usual "I'm not sure..." then pics of the new beau starts appearing everywhere. She says she's ok but she can't stand to look at their pictures for very long. She needs to turn away because it is burned behind her eyes what she's seeing and looking at it longer make it hurt even more. She says she feel so empty and I say because you have not moved on. But how can you help someone who thinks she already has despite all of this. How can you help anyway? Isn't this type of healing self-paced?
How do you help someone who needs to help herself but could not? How do you give strength when the strength needed must come from within? I can only comfort from afar and give her strength thru thought and fervent wishes. I'm afraid to pray for to pray for this to pass means to acknowledge how bad it really is. I'm afraid because prayer are not always answered the way we we wish it to be answered.
* dreamed by 12:10 PM
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